Survivors (ie, survivors of abuse, neglect) are general highly introspective. But this highly admirable trait also gives abusers a way in.
NARC-OLOGY.Com ~ I just realized I grew up in an abusive enviroment. (I know that's spelled wrong). Not hit, etc. but told things I believed. Stupid, ugly, etc. For years I thought something was wrong with me. Now I know it was them. Will save this to remind me.