Jody R. Miller This subject is very important to me. As a parent of two teenagers, I want to support healthy identity achievement. It's a tricky balancing act, though. When I notice something they are interested in, I get excited and want to support them. Often it's received as pressure and they lose their joy in it. How to be supportive, without being pushy is the trick. If I back off, then I run the risk of not seeming interested. Ugh. Parenting teenagers is as tough as being a teenager.