How to tell if somebody is genuinely interested in you/values you, etc. (family, friends, etc.): If you removed all of your effort from the equation would any communication remain between you? If not, there is nothing there and you deserve better.
If both parents truly support shared parenting the effort towards making that happen would be equal. Bashing the other parent or fearing the kids might like it there too much is not an equal effort. Doing what is best for the child is an equal effort.
Pay Close Attention To her!When she's "asking questions" she is trying to gain clarity. When she's quite and letting things "slide" she is giving up. And when she's not doing any of the above just know you lost a good woman.
Essential Rules for Women on a First Date Ladies. Good men pursue the woman they want with upfront communication, genuine intentions and consistent effort. And when they stop is when you need to reevaluate