If both parents truly support shared parenting the effort towards making that happen would be equal. Bashing the other parent or fearing the kids might like it there too much is not an equal effort. Doing what is best for the child is an equal effort.
"It's so Amazing When someone Comes To Your Life And You Expect Nothing Out Of It But Suddenly There Right In Front Of You Is Everything You Ever Need." quotes FOR PHILIP K. You are amazing and I cannot wait for all of our plans to come together:)