"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them." Thomas Merton: No Man Is an Island
Morally speaking only, and wrong is wrong. Otherwise, a feeling of wrong could be fear, as in 'I can't', which should be explored. Sometimes we need to walk through fear to mature and grow to our best self.